have you ever had an out-of-nowhere flashback and thought: "now there was one relationship that didn't make sense."

i was rummaging through my old stuff when it jumped at me. this particular memento I didn’t even remember I had, that evoked memories of a relationship long forgotten, like rediscovering an old book gathering dust on an abandoned bookshelf.

now that I think about it, that relationship was something i never really understood. we were brought together by circumstance, probably even by convenience. the way we each looked at life, treated people, processed decisions and handled situations was totally different from the other. everything seemed to be wrong from the onset, and as each month passed, i found myself bringing out the worst in him and vice versa. by the time we decided to call it quits, I was this miserable, self-doubting, paranoid, virtually suicidal soul.

i just recently read this article about a famous filipino-chinese tycoon, who shared his success secret: i chose my wife well. according to him, everything follows when your heart is at peace. something to that effect. i could not agree with him more.

these are the times when I thank god that the one that got away -- did get away. or else i never would have met my wonderful, wonderful hubby.. who loves my family and friends as much as I do, likes my fashion sense, laughs at my jokes, thinks overacting is cute (at least most of the time), and most importantly, trusts my judgment and has given me the confidence to be my own person again.

life sometimes has peculiar ways of showing you its beauty.